Hey everyone, it’s Frankie here. Today, I want to share something that’s really
personal to me – how being a young carer affects my social relationships. It’s
not something I talk about often, but I think it’s important for others to
understand what it’s like or for others to relate and realise that you’re not
alone.
Balancing Friendships and Family Duties
My day starts early. Before school, I help my mum with her morning routine
because she has a chronic illness. By the time I’m done, I’m already exhausted, but I still have to get to school and focus on my classes. At school, it’s hard to concentrate. My mind is often back at home, worrying about my mum. My friends don’t really get it. They think I’m just zoning out or not interested in what they’re saying, but the truth is, I’m just overwhelmed.
I want to spend time with my friends, I really do. But most of the time, I feel
put to the side, like I don’t belong. They talk about going out in town, shopping
or going to one of their houses after school. It makes me feel lonely because it’s not that simple to me.
After school, I head straight home to take over from the carer who helps
while I’m at school. My friends don’t understand why I can’t just join them. It’s hard to explain that my family relies on me.
I’ve lost some friends because of it. They feel as if I don’t have time for them
anymore and say that they’re bored of me never making plans. But its
just…complicated. But there are good moments too. Me and my Mum are really close. She understands me in a way that others don’t. And I’ve learned to cherish the
friendships that do understand what I’m going through.
“It’s hard to maintain friendships because I can’t always go out or join in with
activities after school. I feel like I’m missing out on being a normal teenager.” –
This quote is taken from the Carers Trust report titled ‘Hidden from View: The
experiences of young carers in England.’ It highlights the challenges young
carers face in balancing their responsibilities and maintaining a social life.
If you’re a young carer watching this, I want you to know that it’s okay to feel
this way. It’s tough, but you’re not alone. Finding people who understand,
whether they’re friends, teachers, or support groups, can make a big
difference.
Resources for Young Carers: Bridgit Young Carers Support
And to those who have young carers as friends, try to be patient and understanding. Sometimes, we need a little extra support and empathy. For anyone needing more help or just someone to talk to, check out Bridgit Young Carers Support. It’s a free online platform for carers all around the UK, with content specifically for young carers like us. Thanks for listening. Stay strong, and don’t be afraid to reach out. You deserve support and understanding, just like everyone else.
