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I don’t want my loved ones to know how I am feeling as I am the main carer

Why don’t you try? : Open up to a trusted person about how you’re feeling

How to tell someone you have depression
Making the decision to tell people that you’re struggling with depression is a big step. Not only is it difficult to let people in during this difficult time, sadly, there are still many misconceptions about mental illness and the last thing you want is to feel stigmatised because of it.
However, opening up about your depression is one of the most effective steps towards recovery and wellbeing & after all, ‘a problem shared is a problem halved’. Here, we provide advice on how you can go about talking to people about your mental health.

Write down what you want to say
Taking notes can help you gather your thoughts and organise them so you can express yourself in the best possible way. If it makes you feel better, you can even practise saying it out loud before you confide in your loved one.

Do it in a casual environment
Research has shown that doing some form of activity, whether it’s going for a walk, or going out for a coffee, can improve people’s mood. That’s why it’s a good idea to talk to the person when you’re out doing something together that you enjoy. Not only will this serve as a distraction so that both of you can gather your thoughts if needed, but being in a generally better mood is likely to make it much easier for you to open up.

Wait until it feels comfortable
Remember, you don’t have to go into it straight away. Take your time and do it when it feels right. You might prefer to talk to them about something completely different to begin with, ask them how they’re doing, or relax for a while with a cup of tea. When you feel ready, the best way to start is to tell them you have something important that you want to talk about, so they know not to take the conversation lightly. Also, it’s important to be clear whether or not you want them to keep the information to themselves at this stage.

Say what you have practised
When you’re ready, just go for it. Say what you’ve practised, and if you feel more comfortable taking your notes with you, then do so. If you get tongue-tied or shaky then don’t worry. It’s perfectly acceptable to tell the person that you’re finding this difficult. If you find that you’re becoming a bit overwhelmed, then just take a break and come back to the conversation later.

Don’t worry
The chances are that the person you are choosing to confide in is a family member, good friend or someone you are very close to. Although they may be surprised at first and may not know what to say initially, remember that they love and care about you and will want to support you in every way they can.

Seek professional help
Whilst it can be enormously helpful to confide in a family member or loved one about the way you’re feeling, ultimately, depression is a mental health condition that can become progressively worse without professional help.

Source: Priory Groups
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Here’s a tip for you to try this week :

Sit down to talk to your loved ones and share about your concerns, if you cannot then speak to a group of carers in your local area such as a MIND support group, a Bridgit.Care community forum or request a chat with a Carer Buddy, Speak and share your feelings with your family and friends and close support network, Speak to the person you care for about taking time for yourself, Try to distract your anxious thoughts, start a new hobby/activity with your loved one or start an online course,

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